Comments on: Career Doctor: Ungrateful Heir To Family Business http://www.larchmontgazette.com/careerdoctor/career-doctor-ungrateful-heir-to-family-business/ by and for the people of Larchmont, NY Wed, 09 Mar 2011 20:06:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Eleanor http://www.larchmontgazette.com/careerdoctor/career-doctor-ungrateful-heir-to-family-business/comment-page-1/#comment-998 Eleanor Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:46:05 +0000 http://www.larchmontgazette.com/?p=8168#comment-998 I am in the same situation as the writer with a business that he could inherit. However, I told my son to follow "his" dreams. Had it been to come into my business, that would be great. But, my dreams may be different than his dreams. As parents, we have to make our children independent people. I can't imagine describing my child as "lousy and nasty." Something else is going on here. I think this family needs some help and counseling to sort it out. I am in the same situation as the writer with a business that he could inherit. However, I told my son to follow “his” dreams. Had it been to come into my business, that would be great. But, my dreams may be different than his dreams. As parents, we have to make our children independent people. I can’t imagine describing my child as “lousy and nasty.” Something else is going on here. I think this family needs some help and counseling to sort it out.

]]> By: DC http://www.larchmontgazette.com/careerdoctor/career-doctor-ungrateful-heir-to-family-business/comment-page-1/#comment-996 DC Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:52:27 +0000 http://www.larchmontgazette.com/?p=8168#comment-996 Eleanor, I agree that they should have guided their son toward another career path, but maybe he at some point seemed to want to go into the family business. Family businesses aren't uncommon, and often they provide a good living for several generations. It all has to be handled right, of course, and it would have been better in this case if the son had tried his hand at something else first. Eleanor, I agree that they should have guided their son toward another career path, but maybe he at some point seemed to want to go into the family business. Family businesses aren’t uncommon, and often they provide a good living for several generations. It all has to be handled right, of course, and it would have been better in this case if the son had tried his hand at something else first.

]]> By: Eleanor http://www.larchmontgazette.com/careerdoctor/career-doctor-ungrateful-heir-to-family-business/comment-page-1/#comment-992 Eleanor Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:22:22 +0000 http://www.larchmontgazette.com/?p=8168#comment-992 Your son sounds troubled. It was "his choice" to work in your business. He should have found his own "career path." However, if he reads this...and recognizes his own parents showing their lack of respect and apparent anger towards him...gosh, I think he will be devasted. I think that a "family intervention" may be needed very soon. Counseling would be a good idea for all of you. How did you allow this to happen? You also played a part by allowing him to work with you. It appears that "it was your dream...not his." Sell your business and let him find his own path. Your son sounds troubled. It was “his choice” to work in your business. He should have found his own “career path.” However, if he reads this…and recognizes his own parents showing their lack of respect and apparent anger towards him…gosh, I think he will be devasted.

I think that a “family intervention” may be needed very soon. Counseling would be a good idea for all of you. How did you allow this to happen? You also played a part by allowing him to work with you. It appears that “it was your dream…not his.”

Sell your business and let him find his own path.

]]> By: LarchLady http://www.larchmontgazette.com/careerdoctor/career-doctor-ungrateful-heir-to-family-business/comment-page-1/#comment-979 LarchLady Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:29:38 +0000 http://www.larchmontgazette.com/?p=8168#comment-979 Good advice. It's always hard to push adult children out of the nest, especially when the nest is so comfy and the outside world is so rough. Previous generations of parents had no trouble doing it, though. We are raising a generation of "Me first" kids, I'm afraid. Good advice. It’s always hard to push adult children out of the nest, especially when the nest is so comfy and the outside world is so rough. Previous generations of parents had no trouble doing it, though. We are raising a generation of “Me first” kids, I’m afraid.

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