The Career Doctor™
by Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez
Looking for a first job? Thinking of changing careers?
Facing a lay-off? The Career Doctor™ is a Larchmont psychologist
specializing in career counseling. If you'd like to ask a question of
your own, use the anonymous ,
and she might answer you here. Read more about the Career Doctor here.
Contact in ation is here.
AM I REALLY INTERESTED IN BEING
A COUNSELOR -- OR AM I JUST A BUSYBODY?
Dear Career Doctor:
How do you really know if you want to be a counselor to help people
or whether you are just someone who likes to get involved in other people's
Many beginning therapists secretly worry that they have entered the
field simply because they are a bit of a voyeur -- or just nosy. It's
good -- actually vital -- that counselors questions themselves like
this. Counselors and therapists need to question their motives, because
one key to being ethical and effective is that you never pry into a
client's life because of your own curiousity. You ONLY ask questions
when you genuinely believe the answer might help you solve your client's
A similar key boundary exists regarding getting "involved in other people's
problems." You have to be keenly interested in your clients' lives and
issues, but you must also maintain a certain distance so that you don't
become overly involved. Why? That's the key difference between the advice
of a friend or relative versus a counselor. Friend or relatives often
have strong personal opinions or stakes in the outcome, so they become
offended or upset if their advice is not taken. A good counselor, on
the other hand, is solely interested in trying to help clients achieve
their goals. Good counselors always recognize that clients have a perfect
right to ignore or disagree with any advice that is given.
So, if you become a counselor, you have to want to be involved -- but
not overly involved. And to keep asking whether you are maintaining
that fine balance all through your career.
The Career Doctor
The Career Doctor™ is Larchmont
psychologist and career counselor, Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez.
Her office is at 90 Beechtree Drive in Larchmont, 914-834-1982.
For more in ation go to www.jacquelineplumez.com.