The Career Doctor™
by Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez
Looking for a first job? Thinking of changing careers?
Facing a lay-off? The Career Doctor™ is a Larchmont psychologist
specializing in career counseling. If you'd like to ask a question of
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MY SON CAN’T GET A JOB - PART II
Last week I ran the
following letter and gave some practical suggestions to help the
son’s job search. Because this is such a common problem, this week I’m going
explore some psychological reasons why young grads don’t get jobs.
Dear Career Doctor:
My son graduated from college last May and is living at home. He has gone on several
interviews, but he hasn’t gotten any offers. He says he is looking for a job, but I don’t
see him doing very much except sleeping late, playing on the internet and hanging out with
friends. This is driving my wife and me crazy, but we don’t know what to do or how to help
1. “I need some time off.” He’s had enough. It’s depressing
to live the way he’s living, so don’t enable him by supporting his lack
of a job search. You will probably want to continue providing room and
board and paying for any transportation to job interviews. But consider
making him earn his own spending money. By the way, two of the companies
that he might apply to for a “spending money job”, Whole Foods and The
Container Store, made Fortune’s list of Best Companies to Work for.
So, he might end up finding that a career grows out of a part-time job.
2. “I don’t want to start at the bottom.” Too bad.
Even top graduates from top colleges often have to take entry level
jobs where they do menial work—especially in “hot” fields. The important
question to ask on interviews is “What happened to the person I’d be
replacing?” You want to hear that they moved up the ladder from any
job that requires a lot of menial labor.
3. “I’m afraid I’ll get stuck in a bad job.” This is
THE BIGGEST issue I see when I work with unemployed college grads. They
are terrified that they will take a job, hate it and never get out of
the rut. They don’t realize that most people change jobs many times
in their careers, and that any job that gives them skills and experience
can be used as a springboard to change employers or fields.
4. “You just don’t understand.” Many people in their
twenties don’t want parental advice. They are more receptive to hearing
suggestions from a professional like me than a parent, so print out
these columns – or even better – get one of your friends to print out
the columns -- and give them to your son.
The Career Doctor
The Career Doctor cannot answer every question here, and she does not
respond to personal emails. Please use this form to ask your question.
The Career Doctor™ is Larchmont
psychologist and career counselor, Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez.
Her office is at 90 Beechtree Drive in Larchmont, 914-834-1982.