The Career Doctor™
by Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez
Looking for a first job? Thinking of changing careers?
Facing a lay-off? The Career Doctor™ is a Larchmont psychologist
specializing in career counseling. If you'd like to ask a question of
your own, use the anonymous form below, and she
might answer you here. Read more about the Career Doctor here.
Contact information is here.
MY JOB IS ABUSIVE
Dear Career Doctor:
I recently realized that my job is abusive. The company is known for its terrible turnover
and is at its all time worst. I honestly feel that they are pushing me to fail. The stress
is debilitating and I have finally shut down. I've decided that I do not deserve to be
treated like this and need to make a move. However, finding another job could take months.
My alternatives are to quit, contact HR for assistance or ask my doctor to consider
putting me on work leave. Which alternative would have the smallest impact on my career.
The sad truth is that more and more companies are working employees to death and giving
them less and less support. This is usually stupid, because such companies usually have
to pay for abusive practices through costly high turnover. However, the answer to your
multiple choice question is "none of the above."
The saying that it is easier to get a job when you have a job is true, so I would not quit.
I'd keep working while looking for another job. It is probably useless to ask HR for help
in a company that is known for being terrible to its people. HR is either in collusion
with management or powerless to alter the situation. And it doesn't look good on a record
to go out for work leave, so I wouldn't do this unless it is vital for your health.
So, before you do any of the above, I would try three other things:
1. While working, devote most of your effort to finding a new job in a better company.
Your main focus should be on getting another job.
2. Learn some relaxation or meditation techniques to relieve stress. Many psychologists
or other professionals can teach you to do this in a few sessions.
3. Every time something abusive happens or you begin thinking how horrible your situation
is, switch your thinking. Either do something concrete to aid your job search, or think
of something good or positive about your life away from work.
Remember, your misery won't last forever. All it takes is one good job offer! And as I
always say, success is the best revenge.
The Career Doctor
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The Career Doctor™ is Larchmont
psychologist and career counselor, Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez.
Her office is at 90 Beechtree Drive in Larchmont, 914-834-1982.